It’s no secret that many women love to talk. That just seems to be a calling card for many of us who can’t get enough of spending time with our girlfriends. I have what you may refer to as adult BFF’s. Yes, and I was shocked to hear it’s a ‘thing.’
Having conversation with people with similar interests, contrasting viewpoints, colorful opinions, a variety of gifts and talents can expand your world in ways that you never knew was possible. To have a handful that can speak truth in your space when you can’t do that to the face in the mirror, that’s priceless.
I cherish my small group that I do Bible study life with on a regular basis. Sure there are times when life just happens and we have to reschedule or postpone a week here or there. But when we do come together, it’s as if we haven’t missed a beat.
My intimate friends that have known me for decades as well as those who know the “stuff that’s hidden in the basement,” now, those are the ones who are like Aaron and Hur.
But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. Exodus 17:12 ESV
These dear confidantes have held me up when I didn’t think I could go another step. You’ve read about there here before, but honestly, they are the greatest human beings I could have been blessed with. They’ve brought me the strength of GOD when I needed it most. Words that have guided me back onto the right track and helped me to refocus when nothing seemed to make sense. Most importantly, they were Jesus with skin when I needed His physical presence.
If you’re anything like me, you bare the scars of battles fought in times past, some of those battles were so emotionally explosive that you could barely see straight on most days. Wounds that were compassionately dressed by these precious friends when no one else seemed to have the time. And you would willingly do the same for them.
Yes, life is definitely better together – in community, in small groups, in authentic relationships. It’s a sad person who says, “I can do this alone.” The survival rate for a community of one is slim to none.
GOD describes in the Book of Genesis how He took great care in the creation of humans.
then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. Genesis 2:7 ESV
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Genesis 2:18 ESV
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Genesis 2:21-22 ESV
Girl, the Almighty formed you with love in His eyes. You were uniquely created to do great and mighty things. That helper was not intended to imply a frail and weak creature. The woman you see in the mirror when you rise in the morning (look beyond the bedhead) was destined for greatness because she, too, is an Image Bearer of her Creator GOD.
Let me not be the only person who reminds you of this very fact. If I am the first, let this be the launch pad from which you speak this truth into the space of another sister. And this is why we need to do life with those whose eyes are on Jesus. It is those girlfriends (adult BFF’s) that will set your wagon straight when the wheels get wobbly. Your intimate community of the handful will rescue you from yourself at times. I know that mine have.
If you don’t have a small community of other women with whom you do life in the honest and authentic lane, it’s time for you to stop missing out and start reaching out. Surround yourself with GOD-fearing, Christ following, Holy Spirit-filled excited-about-life women. Seek them out in your local church so you can experience Jesus with skin when you need Him. Get involved in small group Bible study and make a friend or two.
We were never meant to do life alone. We are always better together.
I love you to Heaven and Back, Girlfriend ~
LindaRJohnson, TitusTwo Visionary
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