So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone — especially to those in the family of faith. Galatians 6:9-10
We’ve all been there ~~ tired and just flat out exhausted behind description. Go ahead, Girlfriend, I see you nodding your head ~~ it’s OK, several others are nodding right alongside of you.
After having a conversation with my daughter that lasted a good long while, I was reminded of the fact that God doesn’t tire out of hearing our moans and groans. He does call us to be witnesses of His Glory by doing according to His Will (which is reflected in the Scripture verse noted above) because others see God through us. But I am also gently reminded that we are called to peace.
And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. Colossians 3:15 NLT
Living in an imperfect world can sometimes blindside us. We forget that just as unique as we appear on the outside, we are also uniquely “us” on the inside. Too often, imperfect individuals expecting perfect behavior and conduct can end up in a head-on collision, resulting in an unexpected train wreck. Lying amidst the wreckage of ‘he said’ and ‘she said,’ we are often compelled to pick up what we can salvage and simply walk away, not looking back at what we leave behind. It’s too ugly a sight to cast our eyes upon, and too painful to think of what occurred right before the impact.
Relationships can be the same. After the explosion, the shrapnel and debris has made its lasting impact in our lives ~~ moving forward is difficult and extremely complicated, not to mention painful. Suddenly we are reminded of the frailty of life.
When relationships ‘hurt,’ that’s when we have to examine and evaluate: weighing out the importance and value to us. If you’re like me, I tend to pause and reflect whenever someone has hurt my feelings. My initial response is to ask myself, “what did I do to bring that on?” “Was I instrumental in the other person’s behavior?” “Was it my fault?”
And sometimes it is ~~ and sometimes it isn’t. After praying about it ~~ yes, prayer does provide clarity ~~ The Holy Spirit gives me the discernment and reveals to me what part, if any, belongs to me. If I did not contribute to the other person’s actions resulting in their hurtful behavior, He shows me that, too. Make note: the revelation is not always instantaneous; many times I have had to wait and listen. Nonetheless, God answers whenever we ask ~~ in His Timing.
When it’s a situation that requires a separation or severing of ties, that’s when days of prayer (if not longer, depending upon the seriousness of the matter) are usually required to be sure I am acting within the Will of God, and not out of my own human flesh. There have been ‘those’ relationships that have left me exhausted from the toxicity that emitted from the other party. Going back to the Scripture verse that says God has called us to peace ~~ you know when there isn’t peace in a relationship. You can sense the burden on your shoulders, and it’s not healthy. Usually what ensues is stress spewed out from you towards innocent loved ones ~~ lack of concentration, and a whirlwind of distractions may even cause you to appear like your old nature has resurrected. Spiraling down at a speed too fast to track, you begin to second guess all your emotions and decisions. This is clearly not what The Lord intended for His Chosen.
Girlfriend, I say these things because God wants you to lay down this burden and place it in His Hands to carry. This side of Paradise, you may never know the reason why you had to experience the heartache of this relationship ~~ the important thing is that you release it now into His Care so that you can move forward and be fruitful and productive for His Purpose.
As for me, I have learned that it was usually for me to learn from this experience and receive the character development and new traits ~~ God has an Assignment for me to carry out and the Life Lesson and change of heart is par for the course.
So recharge and get excited, Sister ~~ there’s work to be done. Get some sleep and wake up renewed and refreshed in The Spirit.
I love you to Heaven and Back, Girlfriend ~~
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